Here is a sample from the wonderful set of resources offered by Teaching Tolerance a project of the Southern Poverty Law Center. These are questions used in the restorative inquiry process, where students are offered the opportunity to repair and restore a relationship after a misbehavior. Teaching Tolerance offers a restorative practices toolkit as well. Check out all their resources by visiting here.

Social Restoration

  • Tell me what happened. What was your part in what happened?
  • What were you thinking at the time?
  • How were you feeling at the time?
  • Who else was affected by this?
  • What have been your thoughts since?
  • What are your thoughts now?
  • How are you feeling now?
  • What do you need to do to make things right? Repair the harm that was done? Get past this and move on?
  • What can we do to support you?
  • What might you do differently when this happens again?


  • Tell me what’s been happening. What has not been working for you?
  • What are you thinking about this situation?
  • How are you feeling about this situation?
  • How is this getting in the way of your learning? Feeling okay about school? Being the person you want to be at school?
  • What do you need to learn/to do to make things better? Make things right? Reset and get back on track?
  • What can we do to support you?
  • What might you do differently the next time you find yourself in this situation?